Revaleeta Lola, you Give Me Hope
This is just something that I've been wanting to tell everyone. Everyone who's been saying congrats on the new little sis, and everyone who says she's beautiful, I want you to all know what it took for her to get to this world. This is very important to me, so don't take it lightly.
Up until now, my mom was having a difficult time caring a baby. She could get pregnant, but the baby would miscarry for some reason. This happened three times over the course of 5 years. Two of the miscarriages were twins. I know that I have five little brothers and sisters waiting for me on the other side, and it hurts me and my family to know that we will never know them here on Earth.
My mom found out later she has a genetic problem that makes her blood clot too quickly, which is what could have been why the babies kept miscarrying.
Because of the miscarriages, my mother started to have major health issues. She would lose too much blood during her period, and that could make her pass out. I remember once, my Junior year of High School, I was called down to the Elementary because my mom was sick and she needed me to take her to the hospital. That really rattled me. Because of all of this, my mom and dad were seriously thinking about giving up trying to have another baby. Depression was really an issue in our household during this time. However, I always told mom that, even though she didn't think she could have a baby, that she shouldn't give up.
Mom became pregnant in the spring of '09. The gyno had her give herself injections to keep her blood from clotting too quickly. She had to give them to herself, in the stomach, every night. You would not believe how bad the bruising looked. But she did it, every night, painful as it was, for the baby. She did this for the entire nine months.
During the summer, I was living at home with my family, but my mom was really sick from being pregnant. Needless to say, the family needed to step up and help out with more of the housework than we usually do. If any of you know me at all, you'll know what a lazy sloth I am, especially when it comes to housework. I had some trouble adjusting at first, but we all helped out. It was hard, since my mom was the one who took on the brunt of the housework, but we managed.
In the fall, we had another difficulty in our lives. Cathy Bunyan, my mother's mentor for teaching, my little brother's piano teacher, and a close family friend died. My mother and brother were the ones who found her body. She was supposed to give piano lessons to Reese that night, but she didn't open the door, so mom called a neighbor, who tried to let them in, but to no avail. My mom happened to notice Cathy's body on her bed and called the police. She had had a heart attack a few days before. This hurt all of us badly.
Following Cathy's death, a string of deaths happened until December. Vi Holdwick, our long time neighbor and Reese's first babysitter, lost her battle with Cancer. Big Bill, a close family friend, died of old age. Uncle Juan died from Alzheimer's Disease. Uncle Herb lost his battle with Alzheimer's Disease as well, although he always remembered Reese's name. Uncle Dickie Paul lost his battle with diabetes. Lastly, Uncle Paul on my dad's side died after surgery. All of this death really hit my family hard. All we could do was focus on the life that was to come (the baby).
Finally, on February 9th (my great Grandma Frances' (who died in the summer of '08) birthday), during the worst snow storm of the season, my mom went to the hospital to have the baby. Unfortunately, they sent her home, since her contractions weren't close enough. Because of this, my mom ended up having Revaleeta in the car, during the storm, in the dark, by herself, in her pants! So many things could have gone wrong, but she was born healthy, whole, and happy!! Even after all of these things, Reva and my mom are doing great. In fact, my entire family is doing so much better now! I am so thankful everyday for my family.
Mom, your strength, and Revaleeta, your giggle Gives Me Hope everyday and you help me persevere. I just want everyone to know how much work it was for everyone to get you to this world and how important you are, and how special, and what a miracle you are. I love you all so much!
Up until now, my mom was having a difficult time caring a baby. She could get pregnant, but the baby would miscarry for some reason. This happened three times over the course of 5 years. Two of the miscarriages were twins. I know that I have five little brothers and sisters waiting for me on the other side, and it hurts me and my family to know that we will never know them here on Earth.
My mom found out later she has a genetic problem that makes her blood clot too quickly, which is what could have been why the babies kept miscarrying.
Because of the miscarriages, my mother started to have major health issues. She would lose too much blood during her period, and that could make her pass out. I remember once, my Junior year of High School, I was called down to the Elementary because my mom was sick and she needed me to take her to the hospital. That really rattled me. Because of all of this, my mom and dad were seriously thinking about giving up trying to have another baby. Depression was really an issue in our household during this time. However, I always told mom that, even though she didn't think she could have a baby, that she shouldn't give up.
Mom became pregnant in the spring of '09. The gyno had her give herself injections to keep her blood from clotting too quickly. She had to give them to herself, in the stomach, every night. You would not believe how bad the bruising looked. But she did it, every night, painful as it was, for the baby. She did this for the entire nine months.
During the summer, I was living at home with my family, but my mom was really sick from being pregnant. Needless to say, the family needed to step up and help out with more of the housework than we usually do. If any of you know me at all, you'll know what a lazy sloth I am, especially when it comes to housework. I had some trouble adjusting at first, but we all helped out. It was hard, since my mom was the one who took on the brunt of the housework, but we managed.
In the fall, we had another difficulty in our lives. Cathy Bunyan, my mother's mentor for teaching, my little brother's piano teacher, and a close family friend died. My mother and brother were the ones who found her body. She was supposed to give piano lessons to Reese that night, but she didn't open the door, so mom called a neighbor, who tried to let them in, but to no avail. My mom happened to notice Cathy's body on her bed and called the police. She had had a heart attack a few days before. This hurt all of us badly.
Following Cathy's death, a string of deaths happened until December. Vi Holdwick, our long time neighbor and Reese's first babysitter, lost her battle with Cancer. Big Bill, a close family friend, died of old age. Uncle Juan died from Alzheimer's Disease. Uncle Herb lost his battle with Alzheimer's Disease as well, although he always remembered Reese's name. Uncle Dickie Paul lost his battle with diabetes. Lastly, Uncle Paul on my dad's side died after surgery. All of this death really hit my family hard. All we could do was focus on the life that was to come (the baby).
Finally, on February 9th (my great Grandma Frances' (who died in the summer of '08) birthday), during the worst snow storm of the season, my mom went to the hospital to have the baby. Unfortunately, they sent her home, since her contractions weren't close enough. Because of this, my mom ended up having Revaleeta in the car, during the storm, in the dark, by herself, in her pants! So many things could have gone wrong, but she was born healthy, whole, and happy!! Even after all of these things, Reva and my mom are doing great. In fact, my entire family is doing so much better now! I am so thankful everyday for my family.
Mom, your strength, and Revaleeta, your giggle Gives Me Hope everyday and you help me persevere. I just want everyone to know how much work it was for everyone to get you to this world and how important you are, and how special, and what a miracle you are. I love you all so much!
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